Jealousy

By Morgan Mendonca, High School Freshman and Just Being Girls Writer
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The 1, 2, 3…8 letter word that we all experience at some point in our lives. Jealousy is a perfectly OK feeling to have just as long as you know how to deal with it. It happens to most of us. You love your friend to death, but you are always saying to yourself “Man, I wish I had her clothes, smarts, athletic talent” whatever it may be. Especially as girls, we always see the better in other people, but we never look at what we have that is special to us.
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So, to control this jealousy monster, focus on what is special about YOU! Your friend may be very good at sports, which is her special thing, and you may get the better grades for example. I know sometimes it’s hard to do that, but I bet you, your friend may be jealous about your special thing. A great way to help with this is to talk it out! Keeping feelings of jealousy inside won’t make them go away.
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And, if you feel like you are the only one dealing with this, believe me, you’re not!
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My sister and I have always been very close. As babies, my mom would dress us up in little matching outfits. As we got older, I was very good in school and my sister had a very difficult time. This ultimately led to her being jealous of me. She would make little comments about her wishing she had my brain or something, and it made me feel really bad because I knew inside that I was actually jealous of her. My sister has a beautiful voice and I always wished I had been born with that, and she is also very athletic, while me on the other hand, not so much. So, throughout our years, we never talked it out with each other and eventually the jealousy monster grew between us.
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Finally one day, I couldn’t take it any longer, and we talked. She was surprised to find out that I was actually jealous of her. We hugged it out, and now we both know that we have our own special things and it helps keep our jealousy away. I know I will always wish I had that beautiful voice, but now, instead of thinking about that, I think about what is unique to me.
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So, bottom line is, don’t keep it inside. Talk to a BFF, a parent, a teacher, anyone you trust and get that jealousy monster off your back!!! And, trust me when I say, talking it out WILL help.
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I pinky promise!

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